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This post gives industry insider guidance on finding a therapist with some tips to look for and avoid.

Many people fear that therapy means reliving the past endlessly or “digging things up”. Healing is not about forgetting or re-traumatising yourself. Trauma recovery is about integration Healing means: The past no longer hijacks the present - Memories lose their emotional charge Triggers become manageable Emotions move rather than overwhelm - leading to increased capacity for choice The body learns safety again - The past stays where it belongs: In the past Progress is rarely

What is Moral Injury? Moral injury occurs when a person experiences, witnesses, or is unable to prevent actions that violate their deeply held moral values . When I work with clients with moral injury, they often say: “I can’t forgive myself.” “I should have done more.” “I know why it happened — but it still doesn’t sit right.” Moral injury is not a mental illness. It is a moral and emotional wound . Common Causes Military or combat decisions Emergency service incidents Medic

Trauma doesn’t just affect how we feel — it affects how we connect. When I work with clients with trauma, many don’t recognise its impact until they look at their relationships. Trauma often happens in relationships Familiarity is something that we are fundamentally drawn to for safety. We may choose something or someone that we are familiar with instead of someone or something that is more right for us. If we have been bought up and over exposed to certain power dynamics or

One of the most distressing aspects of trauma is how present it feels — even years later. When I work with clients with trauma, they often say: “I know it’s not happening now, but it feels like it is.” Trauma memories are stored differently Ordinary memories are stored with a sense of time and context. Traumatic memories often are not. Instead, they’re stored as: Sensations Images Emotions Body states This is why a smell, tone of voice, or situation can suddenly trigger a str

When I support people with trauma, many begin therapy feeling frustrated with themselves. “Why me?” “Why now?” " Why haven’t I sorted this sooner? There is often a sense that they have missed some invisible formula — that if they were stronger, wiser, or more self-aware, this wouldn’t be happening. This belief can be deeply painful, and it’s also inaccurate. Trauma is not a sign that something is wrong with you. It is a sign that something overwhelming happened , and your s

When people hear the word trauma , they often think of the big extreme, events — war, abuse, serious accidents. The medical world believed this too for many years! And while those experiences can absolutely be traumatic, this narrow definition causes many people to quietly dismiss their own pain and suffering. When I work with clients with trauma, one of the first things I often hear is: “I don’t think what I went through really counts.” Trauma is not defined by the event . I